I’ve been trying to get a chance to write about this topic for a while. It’s something I think we all struggle with. Managing stress is a difficult thing to do, and based on circumstance it can be harder at certain points in our lives compared to others.
The world we live in today, we are surrounded by so much information and so much pressure. Stress is almost inevitable. Being stressed isn’t good for us, and it’s not what is going to help us lead healthy and happy lives. In fact, stress can actually impact your fitness results as well. There are so many different areas stress can come from, so I’m going to break it into a few sections; Career, Family/Relationship, and general life.
Stress in our careers can come from many different factors, such as:
- Working in a high-paced results driven environment
- Not feeling you’re contributing enough
- Not feeling fulfilled from your role
My first piece of advice around career stress, is to ask yourself if this is what you want to do. This isn’t a simple question, but it’s one that can change you to finally pursue something you enjoy; which will reduce a lot of stress.
If you’re happy in your role, that’s excellent! But there’s too much going on, or you feel like you’re not good enough? To the first point, start making lists of your daily tasks. Once this is done, number each one by priority. Which one needs to get done first and has the most impact? Then work from the list in priority order. You will actually be amazed how something so simple can have such a massive impact on productivity.
Hopefully this doesn’t need to be said, but, AVOID social media and these types of distractions at work. When you are at work, focus on work! If you want to do well, you’re going to need to focus and put the work in.
Do you get your work done, but don’t feel like you don’t make enough of an impact? Ask yourself how long you have been in your role. So many of us have this urge to make a big impact in the world, but this takes time. We need to learn to be patient. We’ve been raised as a generation that is given so much at an instant. We seem to not realize we’re not going to change the world in a day. Honestly, if you’re consistent with your goals and tasks then you will start finding ways innovate and achieve new successes.
Family / Relationships
This can be a very common area of stress, and it’s certainly not an easy one to deal with. If you’re finding it difficult to deal with someone, maybe you’re constantly arguing or you feel like they never seem to understand you. What is probably best to do in these situations is to first try and actually talk to this person. Just you and them, and tell them how you truly feel. Don’t use this as an opportunity to attack them, try and use more sentences like “I feel like…” rather than “You always…”.
If this doesn’t work, and this person is constantly bringing stress into your life, you need to learn how to start avoiding or walking away from them. Your happiness is truly what is important, so if someone is taking that away from you; do what is best for you. Stop worrying about what others think, or what they think of you.
Stress in general life is broad, but I’m going to approach this from the direction of not feeling really fulfilled. If this is the case for you, there are so many ways to work on this.
What I would do first is ask myself, why am I unhappy? Is it boredom? Is it your environment? The best thing to do is find the origin of stress, and then work from there.
Don’t be afraid of change in your life, I know it can be super scary for some, but the greatest opportunities and sources of happiness often come from change.
Here are a few ideas that might help you feel happier:
1. Take Up a Hobby
It’s so important to do things that make you happy, or that get you more involved in life or being more social. A huge problem area for a lot of people can often be not feeling accepted or not having someone to talk to. You need to take a chance here, and try something new. You will more than likely really enjoy it, so just go out and do it!
2. Make Real Friends
I know while we’re young or in college, what we’re mostly likely doing is going out drinking quite often with a large gang of friends. And that’s great, enjoy yourself to the fullest and get out there you social butterfly! But if the only time you see your friends is when you’re out drinking, are they truly your friends? It’s so important to surround yourself with people that share your true values, rather than just those that need more numbers for their group pictures. Start finding other ways to have fun with your friends, go on adventures, out to lunches, or just relax a home eating popcorn and chatting. If you aren’t able to do this with them, and have actual meaningful conversations; then you should really find people you can connect with. Something so simple like this, having someone you can truly talk to will make you so much happier. Surrounding yourself with people won’t make you less lonely, having people that understand you, share your values and care for you will be the people that make you feel happy.
3. Learn Something New
I think one of the greatest powers in this world is knowledge, and if we learn about subjects we really enjoy then it isn’t a burden in our lives. If you’re learning, you’re growing. You’re constantly expanding your mindset and this is how we excel in our lives. You only get one go at life, and if it makes you happy then you can certainly spend it doing the same routine every day. But if you really want new experiences, success, and happiness then you need to work on that. You will need to learn, explore, take opportunities and chances – these are the things that surprise us with the greatest sources of happiness!
This is my small take on the subject of stress, and it can be approached from so many different aspects in our lives. Needless to say, we’re all very different and what makes one person happy may not be the same for another. Hopefully, at least one thing from this post might inspire you to make a small change to reduce the stress in your life.
Have a great day!