Over the past few weeks I’ve been noticing how much we can base our behaviors on external social factors that we seem to think matter. I’ve recently met someone who was telling me a story of how they were afraid of pursuing a business idea because friends and family were telling them they aren’t an entrepreneur and they shouldn’t pursue it. Why don’t you do what you love?

Many circumstances that seem to block us in our daily lives may only appear to do so based on a framework of assumptions we carry with us. Draw a different frame around the same set of circumstances and new pathways come into view.

– Rosamund Stone Zander

There are people out there that are content with the lives that they live, with having no ambition and thinking they aren’t the person that can achieve anything. If they are happy in that life, that’s great for them. But if you want more, why in the world would you let the words of these people stop you? The only difference between someone successful, and you, is that they took the chance, they went out there, and they did it.

This applies to so many different aspects of life, not just ambition. There are so many people that spend their time with friends out drinking because that’s what everyone else is doing. If that life isn’t for you, stop caring about what your friends think, and start doing things for you. If you’re afraid of going into a gym because of what other people might think, again, realize you are doing this for you, forget what they think!

You aren’t going to be happy by doing things based on what other people think are okay, fun, acceptable, or whatever else. We should start taking a deeper look inside ourselves, what drives us, what makes us happy, what are our goals, ambitions, dreams, and start working towards that.

The biggest difference that I’ve made in my life is starting to take long walks and thinking more. Spending time thinking about where I am, and where I want to be. Once you have even the slightest idea of where you want to go, all you have to do is identify the first step. From there, the rest of the steps will start to open themselves up to you.

I know, it’s easier said than done. It’s easy to say you shouldn’t care about what your peers think about your goals. In reality, we don’t want to be outcasts, or to disappoint your family. But let me ask you a question; are you going to live a fulfilled life by doing what the people around you want you to do? Even if that doesn’t make you really happy?

I would challenge you to think about this. If you feel stuck, anxious, or something in your life seems off, take some time to reflect. Think about what drives you, what you could spend all day doing and be really happy and motivated while doing it.

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